There’s a lot of flack given to women who genuinely prefer and desire to be stay-at-home wives and mothers (aka housewives). Many regard it as a noble calling, but in it’s time-after a go at a successful career has been attempted for several years first in or outside marriage. Still others widely claim if a woman does not have a clear identity outside of her oppressive household, she will have none at all and will pine and die a miserable soul.
There’s also a stereo-type in society I hear sometimes in the media: that a Male’s best bet at what I regard as a rather self-centered satisfaction in life is by marrying a “nice little housewife” – one who it can only be assumed will supposedly be more easily tamed, trusted and docile than a career-oriented woman; a woman who is in the work world and must surely have more brains as well as assertiveness. In short, a total misunderstanding of the value of a traditional woman as something to be desired beyond selfish motives. Two songs I listen to often have had me thinking lately, pondering the words I sing along to.
In “Say Hello Wave Goodbye,” artist David Gray sings:
Well hey little girl you will always make up so take off that unbecoming frown,
As for me, well I’ll find someone who’s not goin cheap on the sales,
A nice little housewife who’ll give me a steady life and not keep going
off the rails.”
“See the world
What of movies and T.V. shows? I could spend hours talking about the many films, shows, etc which demean the ideal housewife and the importance of her role in society. Google “housewives” and endless links to Desperate Housewives episodes appear, a show which devalues traditional women to the level of pathetic, philandering fools.
I am a housewife. I try my darndest to look after the many affairs of my household along with the various needs of my precious baby boy. I am loved and appreciated for this decision by a husband who not only gives in return but loves to do so when he can. I have a brain, an education and am not afraid to share my points of view. I know many women who are far better at this challenging role than I but I am committed to growing and learning and trust the scope of the job description is still so much broader than I can yet see but this does not scare me. I am deeply troubled by the belittling of this precious and shrinking population of woman. No matter what, society feels a license to portray us in an unfortunate light and I for one would love to see that change.