Anyways, modest dressing is always a hot topic in Christian circles and though I definitely understand the concern behind these discussions, I often feel the writer has not delved into the real crux of the matter and that is: Well, what exactly do we wear then? Show me pictures, give me practical suggestions but don’t just leave me with a vague, “be modest” and “don’t tempt your brothers in Christ.”
The most basic and easy choices I think a woman can make to look trendy are to pick cute accessories and a flattering, current hair style. I have yet to see an immodest purse, shoe, belt or jewelry item. Worn with the wrong outfit, any of these things can appear immodest but that is only because of the over all image the item of clothing may convey. So wear those huge platform wedge sandals that are all the rage this season, the logo print bangles, over-sized purses, chunky necklaces and belts. Don’t wear your hair shaved or in an eighties puff perm and you’re all set to go!
Is a woman supposed to hide her curves in an outfit? I think it is pretty self-evident that consciously baring parts of certain assets is suggestive and immodest. As much as we may attempt to justify our decisions, some are just obviously BAD choices on so many levels. What of our curves though? Is a shapeless jumper the only really righteous outfit? I believe modestly playing up our shape is a good thing and setting apart our bodies from the male species declares we are built differently and beautifully. For example: Wearing jackets and button down shirts with defined waist lines or defining the waist by adding a belt, flared jackets paired with skinny jeans to accentuate the curve of the waist, brighter pants with a more subdued top to accentuate the bottom half, pockets on the back side of jeans to give the appearance of having a bigger caboose. You know what I’m saying and I know there are many more ideas I have not mentioned!
Of utter importance I suppose is who we are dressing for, our intentions and desires to please or impress others (and I have often heard it said we ladies subconsciously care most about impressing other women with our attire when we are out and about), etc. “You look so cute!” fills us with a one of a kind adrenaline/self-confidence rush I’m sure all women can attest to. I suppose this rush is the result of the pride which infiltrates us all but as much as we need to be mindful of intentions, it should not be taken to a legalistic, “kill joy” degree. We should desire to find our identity inwardly and not with outward appearance but make no mistake that how we feel on the inside will be reflected outwardly in our total appearance for good or ill.
There are some trends I will be staying clear of this season such as the teeny, tiny mini skirt, but all in all, I believe it perfectly possible to have a sound conscience while also looking current and cute!
Please share your thoughts, beliefs and/or ideas on fashion and modesty!
( Guys out there, I would love to know your thoughts and if you disagree with my beliefs on modest dress, please explain your reasoning but remember there is no going back to pioneer era fashions for us ladies and hence, there is only so much we can do!!:)