For example, when I spoke with a family friend living in Brooklyn, in a Cosby show-like row house her family has owned for years, her reply to my inquiry as to whether Rick and I might be able to stay there when we visit the city NEXT WEEK was confusing at first. Her reply was basically that we could stay but under the condition we would come and go without planning to visit with she and her family as they’d be too busy with other matters. Her tone was friendly enough but she simply did not want to mince words.
After the initial surprise though, I am confident this honesty is not a show of unfriendliness or ill will but rather proof that perhaps ones directness in communication directly corresponds to pace of life! I believe there are benefits to this bluntness too as the opposite approach can easily breed insincerity and hidden animosity. Of coarse though, I am mainly hypothesizing!
There is a love-hate relationship with their city that the natives seem to commonly speak of as well. They love their city and would never move away but yet are hesitant in encouraging us to move there. Is it really the unconquerable city? Does the possibility exist for Rick and I to find an apartment within our financial means while surviving on more than dog food, water and subway ticket stubs? Will we quickly be diminished to living tucked far below the city streets as mole people?
I want to believe that where there is a will there is a way and the more I hear the financial implications may be squelching, the more I want to defy the odds and meet this city head on!
other day the statue of liberty had both hands up.”