Micah slapped me hard in the face last night while Rick, my mom and I were watching “Extreme Home Makeover.” It came out of no where but it hurt. My nose was tingling for a few seconds afterwards and needless to say, our cozy little down time was temporarily ruined. He’s hit me before in the face but never this hard. First, I questioned what had just happened, not believing he had hit me with such force and wondering if it was out of “play” or anger. Then, out of hurt and embarrassment, I badgered Rick to take immediate action and give the bruit a good spanking. When his response did not give me immediate satisfaction, I inwardly fumed for the next half hour or so, embittered by what I saw as much ill-treatment directed towards me!
In reflection, it has become clearer to me that we do indeed have a little sinner on our hands. This hitting is not simply the signs of a “stage he is going through” or just the terrible twos showing rearing its ugly head. Sure, the latter may be true to some extent but still the core issue is his little heart, already tainted by original sin and now is the time in which proper disciplinary steps need to be consistently implemented to let him know who is boss (not him;) and what honoring his parents means.
Can he know what honor, fear and respect of mom and dad means at 20 months? Many would say no but I say if he has already figured out that he can hit mom and get away with it much more easily than if he hits dad (he has never hit Rick before), he can definitely understand hitting or using other physical force towards us is inappropriate behavior. Indeed, he must learn this as soon as possible!
My dilemma…I am scared. I am scared because I truly find disciplining difficult to do, much more difficult than I ever imagined it would be. Spanking Micah or being firm with him does not come easily to me and I think this has as much to do with my temperament. Yet, I must prevail or else possibly, worst case scenario, rear an unpleasant bully that no one will want to have around!
So, does anyone relate to this dilemma? I’d love to get encouragement or tips and advice from the trenches!:)