Today I took the first steps to being involved with a maternity home here in Brooklyn. I met with the director of the home and all I can say is that I know this is something God wants me to be involved in. It has been a burden on my heart for so many years to get involved in pro-life work of some kind and finally, finally I am at a point where I feel desperate to get involved. I don’t want to let another opportunity pass me by.
Amazingly, though I am a stay-at-home-mom, unable at this point to volunteer regularly outside of the home, there are many ways to help. The two I am most excited about are having young unwed mothers into our home and prayer intercession every Wednesday. Though the opportunity to have mothers over is posted on their website, I was shocked to learn that I am the first person since the home opened 15 years ago to open my home up to these women. The first! I am honestly not saying this pridefully but only with utter amazement and sadness! I am so thankful for my mother’s example of always being hospitable, no matter what the time and who the guest! It is simply ingrained in my siblings and I to love having people over.
Additional ways to help include giving them the opportunity to hang out with Rick and I together so that they can be introduced to what a godly marriage is all about…what a godly man looks like. They need computer skills, general housekeeping skills, basic child-care know how, sewing abilities (not my forte:), etc. But mostly, they need to be taught about God in any way possible. Without a changed heart, they will never truly rise above their difficult circumstances.
According to the director, these women have come from rough backgrounds with little to no real parenting. Then they go on to get involved in abusive relationships, ending up pregnant and with no where to go. They come to the home to find help but then when it is offered, usually do not want to submit to the rules in effect and they end up leaving after only a few weeks. This is obviously not enough time to bring real change into their lives but yet the gospel can be proclaimed to them and they can experience a Christian community, even if it is only for a few days or weeks.
I won’t lie. I feel totally inadequate for the “task” of having these women into our home. I look young. I seem more naive then I really am. I know they will think they can walk all over me. Yet God has put this on my heart. He has given me a strong desire and I just have to trust He can use me no matter the “green”exterior I present. I need to just look to Him and not to my own abilities because then I will fail. As I have bible study with them, cook with them and just interact with them, I need to simply remember not to fear man but to follow God!
1. Open your home to a pregnant girl. Help her financially, emotionally, and spiritually. (Note: After talking with Susan, I would disagree with Alcorn’s view that a pregnant woman should be helped financially. Many are hooked on drugs, etc. Give financially to a maternity home but do not give cash directly into the hands of these women as they will likely use it unwisely).
3. Volunteer time with organizations helping pregnant women, newborns, drug babies, orphans, the handicapped, elderly, street people, and others in need. Personal care is the most basic prolife activity
5. Donate materials, office equipment, furniture, baby clothes, professional services, and money to Pregnancy Resource Centers, Birthright, Bethany Christian Services, and other prolife groups.
50. Pray daily for prolife ministries and victimized mothers and babies. Organize your own prayer group, perhaps combining prolife concerns with other vital needs, such as missions. Go to prolife rallies or sidewalk counseling and focus on the ministry of prayer. If the darkness of child-killing is to be overcome with the light of truth and compassion, it will require spiritual warfare, fought with humble and consistent prayer (Ephesians 6:10-20).