35 weeks into this pregnancy, I’ve decided it is time to officially decide exactly what the heck I want this labor/delivery experience to look like! I’ve been on both sides of the fence now, having an epidural, pitocin and the whole gamut with Micah while with Ellie, I accidentally (long story) got to the hospital too late and had an unplanned, natural delivery. While I continually hear a planned natural delivery can be a beautiful, memorable experience, an unplanned natural delivery with little time to spare = CHAOS and STRESS!
But, at the end of the day, I think I want to go the no drugs route again, only planned this time. Despite the intense pain, after Ellie was out and in my arms, I felt amazing, alert and like I could conquer the world while after having Micah, I felt groggy, itchy from the epidural and anything but alert. (I do not make this comparison to make a judgement on any kind of birthing choice but simply to state my preference). Because of the lack of post-natal care I received at New York Methodist combined with the fact that Rick can not stay the night as the rooms are shared and husbands must be gone by 10pm, feeling as alert and strong as possible was actually quite crucial for me. I had to take care of myself most of the night. Because Ellie’s delivery was devoid of any complications, help and care was, to put it nicely… minimal.
It is still my desire ultimately to birth in a hospital still just in case a serious complication should arise but this is what I picture: lights turned down in the room, soothing music playing, Rick as assistant birthing coach (he’s up for it he says!:) and…if it is not too late to find one, A DOULA present in the room as well! I’ve looked online at doulas in our area and, if you hire a doula-in-training (has passed initial DONA doula birth training requirements), it is actually quite affordable so I will begin inquiring tomorrow.
I am attracted to the whole doula thing, first of all, because it is a Greek word which stands for “a woman who serves.” I like that philosophy…a woman giving of herself to serve the emotional and physical needs of another woman who finds herself in one of the most vulnerable hours of her life…giving birth. The thought of having an experienced woman there just for me, who can tell me how to breath, what movements to try, etc sounds so comforting!
Unfortunately, the doula thing didn’t seriously enter my mind until tonight while I was reading about in-hospital, natural deliveries and I had always assumed their services would be way out of our price range. To know this may not be true is exciting to me.
Please say I haven’t run out of time to find one!!! Rick, it may be all on you babe!;)