Much is written for women on modesty, but what of the men? Following up on my wife’s post in part 1, I now look at the impact of the issue for men.
We know what modesty means for a woman, what is a man’s responsibility in all of this?
Let’s be real, a woman’s immodest dress is not the cause of a man’s sin and cannot be used to absolve his responsibility over his own eyes. As men, we cannot blame Eve, prescribe burkas, and declare the problem solved. Sin will find a way. Controlling lustful eyes is primarily the responsibility of a man.
Secondly, in as much as dressing immodestly provides an opportunity for a man to fall, so too does the single guy encourage a girl to fall into immodesty by giving his attention to provocatively dressed girls. Christian bachelors need to walk the walk, not perpetuate the problem by giving into worldly ways of thinking.
Is modesty also for men?
The Bible talks about the issue of modesty in terms of not drawing attention to oneself. It seems to me, the issue in view is not lust at all, but rather a call to humility and away from vanity. Although the primary Biblical texts directly address the issue to women, in a metrosexual world the concept may ring true to male and female.
A man should not be caught up in vanity, needing to call undue attention to his appearance. I love photos from the 30s and 40s where men wore suits, maybe even a bowler cap. Men looked classy, but uniformly so. It’s the man who shows up in a powder blue suit who may need to question.
Today, I wonder if hair and shoes are often a man’s choice medium of immodesty? It’s not uncommon to find even men in the church sporting tasseled, punk rock hair and avante garde shoes – standing out significantly from those around them. What does such a look seek to accomplish? If our clothing goes beyond looking respectable or put together it may be wise to consider whether a threshold of trendiness has been crossed where the goal might be vanity.
Of course, he shouldn’t be a slob either – causing him to stand out in the other direction. Look nice, you won’t get a job (or a wife) if you don’t. But:
Stand out in the crowd through godliness and deeds.
Even Christian women focus increasingly on looks. I wonder if a lack of men of strong character and faith has not driven the problem – leaving women nothing but the superficial to look for. I wonder if guys are increasingly hiding behind their look, hoping to passively attract rather than exhibiting true manhood and willingness to lead the charge.